I received a comment from Czari, who is one of our readers. It is with regard to a post entitled “Partners and Marriage”, which is a beautiful article, originally forwarded to me. Interestingly, it is currently one of the most read posts on this website.
It has been forwarded extensively via e-mail as an article supposedly written by Prof. Eduardo Calasanz of the Ateneo de Manila University. However, Prof. Calasanz himself has clarified that the article is actually Chapter 26 of a book.
Thanks, Czari for the feedback. My apologies for this inaccuracy. Allow me then to post Czari’s comment, plus Prof. Calasanz’ reply to our reader:
I contacted Mr. Eduardo Calasanz to ask if he wrote this essay. And here is his reply:
I did not write that piece.
I received it sometime in 1997 and liked it so much that I forwarded it to
many people. The article carried no by-line. After a few months, I got
some messages congratulating me for having written it. Obviously, it was
now going around the internet with my name on it as the author. I wish I
could have written it, but the simple truth is that I didn’t. Nobody, as
far as I knew, claimed authorship.
When I was still in France a few years ago, a short bio sketch (pure urban
legend!) was appended to the piece. And so it went. Even a former
girlfriend of mine had gotten wind of it!
C’est la vie. The long and short of it.
Some years ago, a friend of a former student of mine gave an
indication conerning the source of “Partners and Marriage”. Just to set
the record straight the article is in fact a chapter from a book
entitled Letters to My Son, A Father’s Wisdom on Manhood, Women, Life, and
Love written by Kent Nerburn. It was published in New York by the New
World Library in 1994, but seems to have gone out of print for a while.
Chapter 26 is entitled “Partners and Marriage”. The book has been back
in print since.
I would appreciate it if you could share this rectification with others
who may be inquiring.
Very truly yours,
EDUARDO JOSE E. CALASANZ
Asst. Professor of Philosophy
School of Humanities
Ateneo de Manila University
P.O. Box 154 Manila